Couples Therapy

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to bring the following benefits:

  • Cultivate a sense of safety and trust
  • Rekindle your relationship and intimacy
  • Get out of the cycle of arguments about the same things
  • Nurture each other again
  • Communicate more openly
  • Better understand each other in an inter-cultural relationship

What will happen in the session?

I provide a warm and safe space, so that each partner can share their feelings and thoughts.  You can expect that I, who will have a neutral stance, will help you identify the negative cycle. You experience resolution of conflicts as we begin to understand what drives them. You learn to communicate what you need in a way that invites positive response from your partner. You learn how to create long-lasting, close, and satisfying relationships.

What is EFT?

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples because it is the most empirically validated approach for couples therapy. In terms of outcome, EFT compares favorably with other tested approaches. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. EFT is being used with many different kinds of couples (i.e., traditional heterosexual, LGBTQ, interracial couples) and many different cultural groups. 

In the following video, the founder of EFT, Dr. Sue Johnson, explains about this modality. 

This animation describes how those three EFT phases would look in the sessions.